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This lil one decided to come out 3 days earlier than our schedule hahaha If this is an indicator of how things will be in the future, I have to practice my “letting-go-of-control-muscles” more 😂😂😂 . Say hello to our little boy, the newest addition to our family, Rafael Javier Ruiz or Rafa (for now until his dad @markruiz thinks of another crazy cute nickname). ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Consider this my out-of-office auto response “email” 😂 My scheduled C-section is this coming October 18, but I’ll already be prepping this week in case the baby still decides to come earlier 😭 . I am pretty anxious as always because I HATE medical procedures, needles, and hospitals. And of course, I’ll be getting all of those this Friday and the days after that. 😭 It is a good thing that my birthing team is one of the best, otherwise I’ll be even more anxious. One of the techniques I use to get over the fear is to project myself into the future. Like this time next week, the surgery will be done, baby will be out, and I’ll (hopefully) be going home. . The days after that will be a blur of sleepless days and nights and endless dizzying routine, but we’ll have a new addition to the family. His name is Rafael Javier. 😍 And while I am seriously dreading the next couple of days and weeks, I am also quite excited to get to know this little one. Being a parent is weird. hahahah

Happy 3rd Birthday our dear Miguelito!!!:) I never knew I could give up the last piece of my favorite food to anyone until you came along. haha We love you so much!!!! And while you can’t read this yet, I am putting this out there so you can read this in the future and hold us accountable in case we forget. :) Growing up with us means that we’ll grow up and grow better with you too. Here are the things we’ll work on together for and with you: 1. We will never hold back your tears or emotions. You have the right to feel and to express these feelings. In our home, you will not be shamed for feeling. 2. We will not make you win by default. This will rob you off determination, grit, grace, and perseverance. There are times when you will lose, but you will not miss out on the opportunities to learn from the losses and come out better. 3. We will encourage you to strive for excellence, but at the same time not connect the fruits of your work to your worth. You don’t exist to make us proud, fulfill our dreams, follow in our footsteps, or take care of us in our old age. We are excited and honored to get to guide you, but we are even more excited and honored to get to know you. 4. You can be who you are, love who you love, and we’ll love you anyway. 5. We will tell you how much we love you and show you how much we love you. 6. We will look at you more, look at our phones / gadgets less 7. We will answer your questions with patience and honesty. 8. We can’t protect you from the world all the time and we won’t even if we could, but know that when you go through challenges, you won’t go through them alone. 9. Our home is a place where it is safe to have conversations, no matter how difficult they may be. 10. We will always consider the larger world, the community, the environment, in all of our actions and decisions. Because it does not make sense for us to just take care of you without taking care of the home you’ll live in and the future you’ll be part of. Happy happy birthday my love! The past 3 years have been the best years of our lives, and we are excited for more years to come! :)

My note-to-self these days 😂 I have been making pretty bad decisions when it comes to food lately, mostly because I’m 2 weeks away from giving birth and about a pound below the normal pregnancy weight gain. I was “celebrating” way too early 😂 And now I feel lethargic and swollen 😱 So from tomorrow onwards, I’ll make better food decisions that my future self will be thankful for. . And because every small reflection can be used to reflect about life (haha) in general, I am taking this opportunity to share this thought: . As awesome but flawed human beings, we generally know what’s best for us, but we don’t always act like we do. I have been re-reading one of the best books about behavioral economics lately called, #Nudge, and it gives so many examples of how we tend to “know” what to do for our own good but we don’t necessarily do them because of so many reasons. There are choice architects out there who design decision points to “nudge” us to the (hopefully) right direction, but there are also ways to nudge ourselves. One of my hacks is to #LifeCheck often and envision my future self and ask my current self if what I’m doing right now will be good for my future self. It takes time and practice, but it is a pretty effective tactic. I obviously still have to improve on this (as evidenced by the accumulation of fast food napkins in our car 🤭🙈), but #ThePlan is to keep on trying :) We don’t lose the battle to be better until we stop trying. . How do you nudge yourself today to make yourself better tomorrow?:)

How real life is looking like these days 😂 As a pregnant-mom-of-a-toddler, and entrepreneur, I need to chase after a toddler and work on work deadlines before I pop, WHILE keeping myself healthy!:) So I take all the vitamins and (as much as possible) the right food. One of the things I neglected during my last pregnancy was oral health and as a result, I had bleeding gums and sensitive teeth. I had to go to the dentist a few times then and that was not fun. So this time, I was DETERMINED (haha ALL CAPS) to take care of my oral health too! . Thankful for products like @gumtect Sensitive Toothpaste for being an oral health and hygiene partner for me during this sensitive time in my life and career :) . Gumtect Toothpaste is a locally and Proudly Filipino made product from Lamoiyan Corporation; the makers of Hapee Toothpaste :) Lamoiyan as a company has also been active in supporting marginalized communities around the country. . #ProtectWithGumtect #GetYourGoals . As always, consult your OB if you have questions about products that are safe to use during pregnancy and breastfeeding :)

I’m taking more days to work from home so that I don’t give birth too early (too early = on or before Miguel’s bday celebration), but I still feel out of breath! Literally. And our house caught the nasty bug that has been going around so I’m out of breath and congested too! :( But these next few days are precious. I get to work, yes (I LOVE doing what we do in @rags2richesinc so the work, while hard, is really meaningful), but I also get to spend time with my little boy who is about to be a big brother in a few weeks :) These will be the last few weeks of us being a family of 3. :) No bug can get in the way of making the most out of the next few weeks :)

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